WHEN SOMEBODY IS OFFENDING AND YELLING AT YOU
We all have experienced this situation. These kinds of situation left us miserable, the relationship too. Even sometimes the relationship also ends , when the situation becomes intense which has started with offending thing.
But we rarely think over it. Perhaps , because we have many others things in life which needs our serious attention , career , work stuffs, money , society and other things and in this we leave these things considering it as small. Well these small things make up big issues , if we do not look to it in infancy , it can become vigorous.
So , who yells at you . Well it can be anyone, Your parents , siblings , boyfriend , girlfriend , friends , your boss , colleagues. Other ones can be your neighbour , paternal family members , but these are in rare situation , usually happens when there is locality or house stuffs related issues. So it can be avoided. But the most prominent one are the matters to be look into.
Why do they yell at us ?
• When they want to dominate
• Want to insult you infront of everyone
• when they have short - tempered nature
• Lack of understanding of others point of view.
There are other reasons like mental illness , habitual from childhood but these are rare.
What can one do in that situation ?
1. IGNORE , IGNORE , IGNORE.
The best reply to a fool is silence or ignorence. Just pretend that you are not listening to him or them.
Definitely , it doesn't work in every situation . When it comes to your parents , elder siblings, elder family members ,you can't do that. Well in this situation , you need to answer the questions.
And the nothing can be done in that. What the way it is today , leave it as it is. With the family , it takes times to get things settled as it's complicated.
But definitely , with siblings , friends , close ones, you can definitely do this.
2. CONVEY THEM HONESTLY HOW THEY ARE SPEAKING.
It is not a practical solution though, as the people who are misbehaving don't even give a damn what and how they are speaking. So if you will convey , they will ignore it and continue abusing you.
This can work with the people who become like that out if the anxiety , worries or becomes offending due to anything from which they are suffering. In this matter they are not conscious how and what they are speaking.
In this way, they will understand that they are misbehaving or being rude unnecessarily.
3. ACCEPT YOURSELF
We are advised to accept people as they are. But we still haven't accepted ourselves and know ourselves , how can we do that for others.
You have to know yourself first. How many hours do we devote to just sit and analyse what nature do I possess , what kind of personality I am.
Well it didn't take so much time. You can do it an hour. Take a pen and paper and write down What you are ? Like sensitive ( define it also ,as these words are subjective) , honest , write down all these qualities , talents, what kind of friends you want. These general things should be defined.
But we don't do this basic things. Well we don't focus in basic things not in studies , we just swim on top layer of the water.
Coming back to the point , we need to know ourselves. In this way we will not reply or behave similar to the person who is offending you. We will react the way we are calm , humble or generous.
I went to a satsang once with my grandmother. There Speaker said If one is +ve or becomes +ve the other has to become -ve. That one thing I still remember. But yes it is you who always becomes -ve. Then you need to walk away. To be very straight. Because it's a matter of your self respect which should not be taken for granted.
So , Know yourself first. It's very very important in this complicated world and BE YOURSELF , no matter what.
Also Read: What is loving Yourself ?
Hello, pretty people. I hope you all are doing great. I am a student pursuing bachelor's degree in Arts and aspiring journalist.